In I Respectfully Disagree, you challenge readers to view disagreements as opportunities for growth through relatable anecdotes and a five-pillar framework for fostering respectful dialogue. What inspired you to write this book?

I wrote I Respectfully Disagree because I needed it for myself first. I’ve always leaned toward being a disrespectful disagreer, and I wanted to grow beyond that. As I delved into research, I began sharing the idea in my presentations and training sessions: “We can vehemently disagree with someone’s ideology and still passionately pursue their humanity.” This phrase resonated deeply with audiences, sparking questions like, “How do you actually do that?” or “But what if they believe this?” This book is my answer to those heartfelt challenges—it’s a guide to navigating these complex conversations and fostering true growth through respect.

Is there one anecdote within your book that especially resonates with you?

Yes, The Tortoise Principle resonates with me profoundly. As a recovering perfectionist, I often want to crush it, win the race, and get everything right immediately. However, the principle reminds me that life isn’t about conquering every challenge in one stride but intentional growth along the journey. It calls me to slow down, be strategic, and focus on progress over perfection. No matter how small, every step forward matters more than momentary applause or approval.

What is one misconception you think many people have regarding effective communication?

The biggest misconception is that effective communication is a two-way street. While it involves at least two people, the truth is, I can only control myself. When I reframe communication as my opportunity to plant seeds—even when the conversation veers off course—it shifts my perspective. Instead of matching someone’s energy or getting derailed by frustration, I focus on what I can give to the interaction. This mindset has made every conversation a chance to lead with integrity, even in the most challenging moments.

What is one thing you hope readers are able to take away from I Respectfully Disagree?

I hope readers realize that respect is always a choice. Even when we disagree, we can choose to respect others—and that’s far more powerful than simply agreeing to disagree. Along the way, we’ll make mistakes (trust me, I still do), but every misstep is an opportunity to apologize, recalibrate, and keep walking the path of respectful disagreement. It’s not about perfection; it’s about perseverance in pursuing respect, even when it’s hard. That’s where real growth and connection happen.

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