The Joy Molecule is a soulful blend of memoir and life guide that follows your journey from achievement-chaser to purpose-driven connector, revealing how real joy grows from self-awareness, compassion, and meaningful relationships. Why was this an important book for you to write?

For most of my life, I’ve seen personal growth as an ascension ladder. We climb through experiences, challenges, insights, and relationships. And wherever we are on that ladder, we have two responsibilities: to reach down and help those coming up behind us, and to reach up and learn from those who have already climbed higher.

At certain points on that ladder, something shifts. Instead of stepping onto the next rung, we feel called to build a platform, something sturdy enough for others to stand on, something that can support more than just our own next step. The Joy Molecule came from one of those moments for me.

I realized that the concepts in this book, understanding what we are, who we are, and why we are here, and how joy arises from conscious connection and purpose, were too important to keep climbing quietly with. They deserved a platform. They deserved to be shared in a way that could help others navigate their own journey, especially those who, like me, spent years chasing achievement while longing for something deeper.

Writing this book was my way of building that platform: a place where people can pause, reflect, reconnect with themselves, and find a more joyful, aligned path forward.

What moment or relationship first made you realize that joy and achievement weren’t the same thing?​

There wasn’t a single moment, there were dozens. But the clearest shift happened during my trip to Africa in 2012. I met people with far fewer material resources than I had ever known, yet they radiated a depth of joy and connectedness that I couldn’t quite understand. Meanwhile, I had all the “achievement boxes” checked and still felt empty. That contrast shook something loose in me. It exposed the illusion that achievement automatically leads to fulfillment. Becoming a father to two extraordinary children deepened that lesson. Their struggles, and my desire to support them without projecting my own expectations, also showed me that joy comes from presence, compassion, and connection, not accomplishment.

How did writing this book change your own understanding of joy, if at all?​

The title of the book came from the concept that Conscious Connection + Purpose (C2P) = Joy. When I started writing the book I thought I would focus on the concept of connection, yet when I started digging and reviewing the people that I know who have deep, meaningful joy, they all had something in common. They all knew What they were, Who they were and Why there are here. That concept came after I started writing the book, so that was a huge piece of awareness I didn’t have before writing this book. 

For readers who feel stuck in their careers or identities, what’s the very first small step you’d urge them to take toward reconnecting with joy?​

I think joy is about connection and knowing What you are, Who you are and Why you are here. The metaphor I use in my talks is a closed door. Most of us live in a very comfortable room, especially here in the US. We live for ourselves, rugged individualism, raising our children as isolated families rather than in community. With this in mind, if we want to find more joy we don’t need to look outside of ourselves, this is an inside job. By opening the door to a journey to finding self, we begin to shed the identity we’ve created since our birth and seek connection. Finding ourselves allows us to connect more deeply with others and I believe that is one of the biggest reasons we are here. The Harvard Study on Happiness over the past 85 years is clear that those who have deep meaningful relationships at 50 will be happy at 80. To me it all comes down to connection and connecting to self is the first step.

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