In Walk a Mile in My Shoes, you share your childhood trauma and give readers an open and honest account of your own regrettable choices and how those decisions have impacted your life. Why was it important for you to share your story?

Individuals are often motivated when they read about erratic and unconventional paths that others take. I shared parts of my life (ages 8 to 77) so readers could become aware of the pieces of my life that made me into the man I am today. I wanted readers to explore my life’s assorted happenings before placing their final judgment on my character. (I believe a man should be judged by ALL the pieces of his life — not just one event.) Writing about my lifelong journey was rewarding for me because I was able to look more closely at WHY I am…WHO I am! My narrative was an avenue to finally reveal both positive and negative feelings and emotions I had hidden from myself and others my entire life.

I appreciated the candid nature with which you told your story. What was the hardest thing for you to write about?

I cried a thousand tears as I shared unique stories and events in each chapter — but the most gut-wrenching testimony was telling about the immeasurable pain and agony I caused my wife and children. Criminal activity always affects more than just the offender and the victim … many individuals are often negatively impacted. Losing my family has been an overwhelming experience!

Is there anything you learned about yourself while putting your story on paper?

When I began writing about my past, my original intent was to tell some short stories about my youth that I planned to share with my adult son and daughter. I wanted them to be more ‘aware’ of their father’s past! (I had never told my children about many of the happenings I wrote about.) After allowing my friends to review my stories, they coaxed me into writing more. I added stories about Vietnam, my divorce, my crime, prison and my sexual orientation ambiguity. I felt compelled to share events that occurred while I was on probation. My writing allowed me to release emotions and feelings pent up inside me…like a cleansing of my soul. I was able to look backward and reveal the pieces that transformed me into the man I am today. My writing also allowed me to look forward and yield a sobering view of the few days I have before I die. Friends who read my manuscript often complimented me because I NEVER GAVE UP despite the dysfunctional events that seemed to be part of my arduous journey. I learned that a person could keep going – even when he thinks he has given all he has!

What is one thing you hope readers take away from your experience?

I hope three messages resonate from my narrative. 1) Life is hard…but no matter what occurs in our lives, a person can find the strength and courage to overcome adversity. 2) Judge a person ONLY after you ‘walk a mile’ in his footsteps. (Seek first to understand…then to be understood.) 3) I readily acknowledge my heinous crime. Prison and probation were justified. But it’s vital that Americans closely monitor our judicial and criminal justice systems so overzealous and manipulative members don’t exceed their authority. Surveillance groups finally recognize the importance of holding police officers accountable for their actions. I shared details about the probation department that supervised me — to invite readers to decide if restorative justice was appropriately applied in my case.