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Alexandra Elinsky PhD Author Interview

Girl Grit: Savage Not Average is a blazing manifesto that exposes the wounds society inflicts on women and rebuilds them into fierce, unshakable self-worth. What moment or experience first sparked the fire that became Girl Grit?

In August of 2022, I was on vacation in Florida, swimming in a pool by myself, when the idea very suddenly hit me all at once. I came home, put pen to paper, and finished my first book GIRL GRIT: SAVAGE NOT AVERAGE in 5 months.

You write with such raw honesty. Were there parts of your story that were hardest to include or share publicly?

Yes and no. I am a mask-off author. True to my nature, I believe in authenticity and the realness of life. The good, the bad, and the ugly. It’s time we are hit with the truth as a society instead of sweeping real problems under the rug while wearing the façade of our ancestors. We will grow and evolve as a society when we face our problems head-on. As an author, I was never going to transform someone’s life overnight by writing about candy canes and gumdrops; I was going to do it through raw honesty, authenticity, and vulnerability were necessary.

The book moves from pain to power. How did you decide where to draw the line between vulnerability and empowerment?​

Vulnerability and empowerment go hand in hand. You cannot access one without the other. Willing to be vulnerable is where true empowerment lies. We diminish our empowerment when we hide behind facades, suppress emotions, and refuse to solve problems head-on. People also usually go the route of drinking, drugs, or other addictions. I wasn’t about to go down those dark paths; I was going to take pain and truly turn it into power in an authentic and meaningful way.

If readers take only one message from Girl Grit, what do you hope it is?​

Don’t be afraid of what anyone else thinks of you. Live your life authentically and heal others by refusing to put on the show of being perfect and infallible.

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Girl Grit: Savage Not Average is the first book in the empowering Human Empowerment trilogy for women worldwide. Dr. Elinsky guides readers through a profound journey of harmonizing thought and emotion, exploring personal fulfillment and experience. She transforms her readers from doormats-controlled, manipulated, and walked over by others-into daredevils, fearless warrior women living without regret. Discover what it means to go from average to savage in this emotional, action-packed self-help adventure that will not only inspire you but also challenge societal conditioning to be a ‘good girl’ focused on serving and pleasing others.

In Girl Grit, Dr. Elinsky passionately challenges and dismantles restrictive gender roles, asserting that they limit our potential as women and undermine our purpose as equal human beings. As an expert in gender relationship dynamics, Dr. Elinsky draws on extensive research to critically examine the very fabric of our social conditioning. She urges, “It is time to wise up, rise up, and ascend to your highest potential.” Celebrating the worthiness and grandeur of women’s capacities, Girl Grit will elevate you to unimaginable heights.

Finally, Dr. Elinsky advises, “Do not read this book unless you are ready to revolutionize your life as you know it.” Learn what it means to become a fire woman and unleash your regal authority into the world. Girl Grit will set your self-esteem on fire.

Courage Is Contagious

 Elaine Rock Author Interview

Dusty Roads is the biography of Barbara “Dusty” Roads, a flight attendant who challenged the airline industry’s sexist standards in the 1950s and ’60s and became one of the first female lobbyists fighting for women and against gender discrimination. Why was this an important book for you to write?

While a few books on the women’s movement mentioned one or two of Dusty’s major achievements, they rarely captured the depth or accuracy her story deserved. One book dedicated an entire chapter to Dusty and her colleague and mentor, Nancy Collins. Still, even that left out the most important part: Dusty made it her lifelong mission to fight for her fellow flight attendants. I couldn’t believe no one had suggested writing her biography to preserve her legacy. When I asked if I could write it, she said, “I’ve just been waiting for someone to ask!”

Dusty was fearless. She confronted union leaders, challenged pay disparities between men and women, and fought the airline industry’s discriminatory rules about age, marriage, weight, and appearance. Her persistence helped overturn many regulations that had held women back in the 50s and 60s and beyond. Whether negotiating contracts or lobbying Congress members, she never stopped advocating for her colleagues.

I began writing this book to honor Dusty’s accomplishments for both female and male flight attendants and to make sure her legacy isn’t forgotten. I knew I had a compelling story the moment I saw Dusty thank Gloria Steinem, and she replied, “Oh no, Dusty, I should be thanking you. You’re the one who started it all.” Dusty cried afterward, finally understanding the true significance of her impact. At that moment, I knew I had to write this book. I was the only one who knew her well enough to collect all her stories, and I didn’t want this part of airline and American history to disappear. 

What were some ideas that were important for you to share in this book?

One key idea I wanted to communicate is that persistence really matters. Dusty’s story shows how one determined woman can challenge deep-seated misogyny and transform an entire industry. I also wanted to help readers see that real progress often starts with ordinary people refusing to accept injustice—and that lasting change requires both women and men standing together. I hope Dusty’s legacy inspires others to keep moving forward because the fight for equality continues. 

Did you find anything in your research of this story that surprised you?

Yes! One of the most profound discoveries was learning about Sonia Pressman Fuentes, the first female legal counsel at the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission after Title VII passed. Through JSTOR, I uncovered her articles describing the misogyny she witnessed at the EEOC, including the delays in addressing discrimination complaints from flight attendants. The most startling fact was that nearly one-third of all complaints in the EEOC’s first year came from flight attendants—yet most were ignored by the male commissioners, except for Aileen Hernandez, the only woman and the first Black commissioner. That neglect is what prompted Betty Friedan to propose creating the National Organization for Women, an organization I joined in 1970.

When I found Sonia’s phone number, she generously shared her story with me. She knew that two flight attendants had filed the first EEOC complaint but didn’t realize it was Dusty and Jean. Sonia and Dusty had never met, yet both had spent their careers fighting similar injustices from different angles—one through law and the other through labor. One Christmas, I brought them together on a Zoom call, breaking their “six degrees of separation.” Watching them finally meet was a deeply moving reminder of how many women worked, often unknowingly, in parallel to change history.

What is one thing that you hope readers take away from Dusty Roads?

I hope readers finish this book feeling confident in their own strength and understanding that knowing their rights is the first step in fighting injustice. Dusty showed me that progress isn’t automatic. It moves in cycles, and each generation must learn what those before them endured and achieved so we never forget how far we’ve come or how much further we still need to go.

She understood that the true goal has always been fairness, especially in a world that too often relegates women to second-class status. Her legacy is a reminder that courage is contagious and that every act of standing up for equality lights the way for others.

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If you are a woman or a man …
If you are concerned about the impact of politics on women …

Dusty Roads will be a wake-up call for you.

Meet Dusty Roads, one of the few brave voices way out in the wilderness, where women worked in the world of the 1950s and 60s, when it was mandatory for stewardesses to:
Wear girdles and submit to flick checks to ensure they did.
Maintain weight standards that would be shocking and unrealistic today.
Be willing to be paid less than men in the same job.
Phrases like sex discriminationand women’s rights hadn’t yet entered the nation’s vocabulary.

The captivating story of Barbara “Dusty” Roads sets the stage for an eye-opening read as Dusty begins her fight in 1953 against American Airlines’ employment policies, including firing stewardesses if they married or reached the age of 32. Airline leadership believed stewardesses had to be perpetually young, single, and attractive to entice traveling businessmen to buy tickets. Other airlines followed American’s lead.

Incensed, Dusty vowed to change the policies they were forced to work under. As the most influential voice in her union and one of the first female lobbyists in Washington, DC, Dusty quickly learned she was fighting for all women and against national gender discrimination. Then, in 1965, she filed the first-ever U.S. Equal Employment Opportunity Commission discrimination complaint on behalf of a colleague who was about to be fired for turning 32, a year after Title VII and the Civil Rights Act were passed. Her actions helped to pave the way for workplace equality for both men and women in the airline industry and nationwide.

“I should be thanking you for everything you’ve done. You’re the one who started it all!” -Gloria Steinem.

Author Elaine Rock drew on extensive interviews with Dusty Roads to bring her inspiring persistence alive for readers. Elaine is a former history teacher, technology executive, and women’s rights advocate. She writes about little-known but heroic women and men whose perseverance and resilience helped shape history, making them trailblazers. To view the color print versions of photographs and other bonus materials from her book on her website, please go to the link on the “Contact” page at ElaineRock.com.

Dusty Roads: Meet the Hidden Figure Who Really Ignited the Women’s Movement

Elaine Rock’s Dusty Roads tells the story of Barbara “Dusty” Roads, a trailblazing flight attendant who dared to challenge the airline industry’s sexist standards in the 1950s and 60s. The book follows Dusty’s rise from a young stewardess bound by age limits, girdle checks, and marriage bans to a formidable advocate who reshaped labor rights and gender equality in aviation. Rock paints an intimate portrait that blends Dusty’s personal struggles with broader social change, showing how one woman’s determination rippled into the women’s movement itself.

Reading this biography felt like being on a flight through time. It’s turbulent, beautiful, and filled with purpose. Rock’s writing is crisp yet full of warmth. I could feel her admiration for Dusty in every page. What I enjoyed most was the balance she found between Dusty’s grit and her vulnerability. The author doesn’t just list victories. She lets us feel the cost of them, the isolation, the heartbreak, the stubborn hope that kept Dusty going when most people told her to sit down and be quiet. There’s a quiet defiance in the tone that made me cheer for Dusty, even when the odds were stacked sky-high.

The blatant discrimination, the absurd rules about weight and marriage, the humiliation of being judged for your age, it’s maddening. But Rock doesn’t preach. She lets the history speak for itself, and that makes it hit harder. I found myself reflecting on how many women still face subtler versions of the same nonsense today. The mix of historical detail and Dusty’s personal voice pulled me in completely. It didn’t feel like reading a textbook about feminism. It felt like sitting across from a brave, funny, no-nonsense woman telling me her life story.

By the time I reached the end, I felt a mix of admiration and gratitude. Dusty Roads is the kind of book that sneaks up on you. It educates, but it also stirs something deep inside. I’d recommend it to anyone who loves stories about ordinary people doing extraordinary things, especially readers who crave strong female voices that history almost forgot. It’s perfect for those who want to understand how real change begins, not with grand speeches, but with one person refusing to accept “that’s just how it is.”

Pages: 436 | ASIN : B0DL4F6B56

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Cinderella Didn’t Live Happily Ever After

Fairy tales are a deeply ingrained part of our world’s culture. From Disney adaptations to childhood bedtime stories, very few people haven’t been exposed to the witches, princesses, children, and fairy folk that make up these ageless classics. Good defeats evil, and all live happily ever after, but…are these stories really as wholesome as they appear? Unfortunately, many of the most well-known fairy tales send a wrong message when placed under the microscope with strong undertones of misogyny, ageism, cruelty, and subservience. “Happily ever after” is exposed to a dose of reality as beloved stories become the subject of deeper scrutiny.

In Cinderella Didn’t Live Happily Ever After, author Anne Beall uses her doctorate in psychology to put traditional fairy tales under critical and academic analysis. Throughout the book, she addresses all the absurdities and questions that eventually occur to all reasonable adults about the stories we grew up with. Then, she proceeds to examine each of them, presenting a plethora of research about the formulaic ways they are constructed. Whether intentional or not, much of the shared information deals with the disparity between the sexes throughout fairy tales. In addition, the author provides statistics in various areas such as who holds the most power most frequently, which demographic of characters endure the most suffering, and a basic breakdown of what kind of characters are good vs. evil- just to name a few.

Beyond the deeply analytical nature of the book, it also serves as a fascinating deep dive into some of the lesser-known fairy tales collected by the Grimm brothers. (Their collection of stories specifically was mined for the detailed results as shown here.) Beall repeatedly references the most commonly adapted fairy tales. Such tales are deeply ingrained in cultures worldwide and use frequent excerpts from stories that are not likely to be recognized. It provides an eye-opening look at the wide variety of stories that made their way across Europe at one point in time and also creates a starting point for anyone who wants to know more about a more extensive selection of “classics.”

Cinderella Didn’t Live Happily Ever After: The Hidden Messages in Fairy Tales is an excellent study on the history and the psychological impact of fairy tales. The research is top-notch and backed up with numerous graphs and charts. It’s clear that a great deal of time went into the work here, and the result is a body of work that simply can’t be contested. Readers that want to take a deep dive into the message of fairy tales past and present and look at an in-depth analysis of them will find this book fascinating.

Pages: 127 | ASIN : B07KJHZF2H

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