Knowing My True Worth

Anne Hope
Anne Hope Author Interview

Bent Pages shares personal stories from your life that changed and inspired you. Why was this an important book for you to write?

I originally wrote the book as a gift for my daughter. Most of the events in the book were events I had never been able to talk to her about. But I thought it was important for her to know these things. Our history involves our family history. Our present is so affected by our history and how we respond to events in our lives. It took getting some professional help for me to be able to face many of these issues. They seemed like such huge elephants in the room. Yet, I have discovered by sharing these “secrets” that many people have such elephants that have affected their lives. How we view these events makes such a difference in living our lives and our relationships with others. I wanted to give my daughter the gift of knowing me, all of me…especially since I never felt I really knew my own parents. My father left his family and children, never to return when I was only 18 months old. My mother tried to commit suicide more than once. Perhaps if I had known their experiences, I wouldn’t have judged them so harshly. Most of all, I wanted my daughter to know how much I deeply love her. She has been a most precious and wonderful gift to me!

I appreciated the candid nature with which you told your story. What was the hardest thing for you to write about?

Oh my, there were so many. Talking about the loneliness and isolation I felt as a child and how it affected me as an adult was very difficult to express. Reliving the sexual attack and the resulting chronic guilt that came with it was also difficult to relive. But perhaps the most difficult topic was learning to deal with rejection. They say time heals, but it merely masks emotional cuts. The least little action from someone can drudge up all that emotion when you least expect it. Healing comes from facing your fears, accepting the pain, and ultimately forgiving, while knowing my true worth is found in God rather than in other people or things. While writing, I had to once again learn to forgive. Sometimes that is the hardest thing to do, especially if the one you forgiving isn’t necessarily asking for forgiveness.

What were some ideas that were important for you to share in this book?

If there is one point I hope to make, it’s the importance of faith. Living life with God at the helm is an adventure. But it is an adventure we can trust in because of his great love for us. We don’t always understand why things happen in our lives. But we have a choice in how we view them. We can see ourselves as martyrs or victims. Or, we can see ourselves as victors, overcoming adversity with grace, resilience, and joy.

What do you hope is one thing readers take away from your book?

The critical life skills of trust, love, forgiveness, humility, mercy, unselfishness, and grace can still be learned as adults, even if they were not modeled well in our families. Don’t give up hope on that! No matter what age you are, hope can explode with possibilities, despite our circumstances, if we keep our focus on God. It is possible to let go and let God. As I watched my young daughter fall in love with God, the only father she had ever known, I inadvertently learned these critical life skills for myself through her innocent eyes and unconditional love.

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Could your ten earliest memories make you who you are? Well that’s what a psychiatrist friend once told me. He also said that by recalling the most important decisions you have made in your life that these will have a bearing on future decisions to change the course of your life for the better. I decided to examine those very memories and decisions for myself in Bent Pages.
 
From the time I was a child, one of my habits that drove others in my family crazy was to bend the corner of a page down on a book I was reading if it contained information I wanted to remember and look back on. It was easy to tell which books I had read and had been inspired by…there would be many bent corners. This book is a snapshot of the bent corners of pages in my life that have inspired and taught me. They are moments I never want to forget, even if painful. They have made me who I am. And I would not change that for the world!
 
I have discovered that I can make a difference, one person at a time, beginning with me. I have learned that God is indeed in control, even when life seems chaotic.
 
I have also learned that I get to choose how I want to view those events that affected my life. I can choose to be a victim or I can choose to be a victor. 
 
Welcome to the adventure!

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