Discovering My True Feelings
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In Herschel’s Wake, is the story of you and your siblings traveling to bury your father and, in the process, coming to understand each other better. Why was this an important book for you to write?
When I returned from the island, after the incredible events in the story, every single person I told urged me to share the story. It was just so unbelievable and hilarious, while simultaneously being heartfelt and wrenching. But In Herschel’s Wake is ultimately a book about forgiveness. It’s a story about finding compassion, and I think it holds an (entertaining) lesson for so many people who struggle, not just with challenging parents, or complicated sibling relationships, but it also speaks to our political divisions. No one can find peace or happiness if they’re wrapped up holding anger or resentment or a grudge towards someone. The story is intensely intimate and personal, yet the themes are incredibly universal and relatable.
I appreciated the candid nature with which you told your story. What was the hardest thing for you to write about?
Discovering my true feelings about my father’s transgressions, as well as the grief I felt (despite thinking I had written him off years before his death) was all very complicated for me. In fact it took several revisions of the book before the experiences I was writing about and my true feelings about them really came into focus. Excavating that emotion, committing to the vulnerability of sharing the story, and trying to do all that while still creating a piece of work that was accessible, engaging, and fun to read was a great challenge.
What were some ideas that were important for you to share in this book?
It’s very uncomfortable to sit in uncertainty; where your feelings are not clear and easy to understand. This book is about my experience confronting that discomfort, and coming out on the other side having learned/earned a profound wisdom that enabled me to change my life and find peace after decades of living with unbearable ambivalence that all but paralyzed me from living my life fully. Despite common usage, the word ambivalence doesn’t mean feeling wishy-washy or not having a strong feeling about something. It actually means having strong feelings that are contradictory or on both sides of an issue. The thing is that many (most?) real situations and dilemmas warrant such ambivalent feelings, but too often we bury some of our feelings to help us maintain a narrative that “makes sense” even when it often is untrue, and even may be destructive to our relationships and to our own emotional selves.
What do you hope is one thing readers take away from your story?
Struggling with ambiguity and the hard feelings our family relationships generate takes patience, endurance and courage. This is my story of finding that courage and how it changed my life in a profound and beautiful way. I can only hope that it will inspire others to take a similar path.
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Posted on December 12, 2022, in Interviews and tagged author, author interview, biography, book, book recommendations, book review, book reviews, book shelf, bookblogger, books, books to read, ebook, goodreads, In Herschel's Wake, indie author, kindle, kobo, literature, memoir, Michael Wohl, nonfiction, nook, novel, read, reader, reading, story, writer, writing. Bookmark the permalink. Leave a comment.
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