Across 104 poems, The Spine of My Soul traces a life through love, grief, illness, abuse, survival, and renewal. What led you to organize the collection into “The Good,” “The Bad,” and “The Ugly?”

I organized The Spine of My Soul into “The Good,” “The Bad,” and “The Ugly” because those sections reflect the different seasons and experiences that have shaped my life. My journey has included love, joy, and moments of beauty, but also grief, illness, abuse, fear, and the difficult realities I had to survive. Dividing the collection this way allowed me to honor each part of the journey honestly, without minimizing the painful experiences or overlooking the moments of strength, hope, and renewal.

The poem I wrote about my life stood out to me as a fitting prologue for the book. It introduces the experiences, emotions, and themes that unfold throughout the collection, giving readers a sense of where I have been and how those experiences have shaped who I am. Beginning with that poem felt natural because it offers an honest glimpse into my story before leading into “The Good,” “The Bad,” and “The Ugly.” Together, the sections represent the complexity of life—the beauty, the pain, and everything in between.

How did you approach writing about deeply personal experiences such as abuse, illness, grief, and caregiving while protecting both your emotional well-being and the integrity of the work?​

Writing about my husband’s current cancer journey has been the most difficult for me. It brings up some of the hardest and most painful feelings—fear, uncertainty, sadness, and helplessness. Putting those emotions into words can be overwhelming, but writing also gives me a way to process what we’re going through and to honor his strength and our journey together.

I’ve already worked through and reprocessed most of my past traumas, so I can remember those experiences without feeling strongly emotionally attached to them anymore. They remain part of my story, but they no longer carry the same intensity. In contrast, my husband’s cancer journey is happening in the present, which makes the emotions immediate, raw, and much more difficult to write about.

I write to help myself process the deep emotions that can sometimes feel too overwhelming to express in any other way. Writing allows me to make sense of what I’m experiencing, release some of the pain, and find meaning in the difficult moments. I choose to publish my words in the hope that they might support others who are facing their own struggles and remind them that they are not alone. If sharing my journey through life can offer comfort, encouragement, or even a sense of connection to someone else, then opening my heart feels worthwhile.

The title poem describes the collection as an open door for people who believe they are fighting alone; when did you realize that reaching those readers was central to the book’s purpose?​

I realized that reaching readers who feel alone was central to the book’s purpose when I reflected on the contrast between the different seasons of my life. During the “good times,” I had people all around me—celebrating with me, sharing my joy, and reminding me that I wasn’t alone. But during the “bad” and “ugly” times, I often felt isolated, as though no one else understood what I was experiencing or could see the depth of what I was carrying.

That contrast stayed with me. It made me understand how important it is for people to know that their pain does not make them isolated, even when it feels that way. The Spine of My Soul became more than a collection of my personal experiences; it became an open door—a way of saying, “You are welcome here. You are seen. You are not alone.” I never want anyone to feel alone in their journey again. By sharing the difficult truths alongside the moments of love, survival, and renewal, I hope the book helps readers recognize something of themselves in my words and find comfort, connection, and perhaps the strength to keep going.

Why did you choose “Unlearning the Script” as the final poem, and what does reclamation mean to you now that the collection is complete?​

I chose “Unlearning the Script” as the final poem because it represents the ongoing process of releasing the beliefs, expectations, and survival patterns that were shaped by difficult experiences. Throughout the collection, I move through love, grief, illness, abuse, survival, and renewal. Ending with this poem felt right because it reflects the moment when I begin to understand that I am not limited to what happened to me or to the version of myself that adversity forced me to become.

Reclamation, to me, means finding myself again. It means reclaiming who I was meant to be before difficult circumstances reshaped me—before pain, fear, and survival taught me to hide parts of who I was. It is not about pretending those experiences never happened; it is about recognizing that they do not have the final say in my identity or my future. “Unlearning the Script” closes the collection with a sense of freedom and possibility. It acknowledges that healing is an ongoing process of questioning the stories I inherited, the labels placed upon me, and the narratives I created in order to survive. Now that the collection is complete, reclamation means choosing to write my own story—with honesty, compassion, and the courage to become the person I might have been had adversity not shaped me so profoundly.

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