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Letting Go of Overthinking and Anxiety in Relationships: 57 Easy Techniques to Stop Overanalyzing, Rewire Your Anxious Thoughts and Build Trust in Your Relationship
Letting Go of Overthinking and Anxiety in Relationships is a compassionate and clear-eyed guide that gently walks readers through the emotional maze of anxiety and overthinking in romantic relationships. With 57 practical techniques, the book aims to unravel the tight knots that overanalysis and insecurity can tie between partners. It balances clinical insight with real-life advice, focusing on emotional awareness, cognitive reframing, and communication strategies that are not only actionable but empathetic.
I found myself moved by how much this book “gets it.” The author speaks to the experience of lying awake at night, spinning in silent spirals of doubt and fear, and validates those feelings without judgment. What struck me most was the simplicity of the tools—many are things you can do right away, without therapy sessions or fancy journals. In Chapter 1, the visualization script of a secure relationship felt like an emotional balm. I paused to do it myself. The imagined warmth, the calm space, the supportive presence of a partner—it was powerful. Later chapters dig even deeper. The section on “Defensive Awareness Check-Ins” offered one of the most refreshingly honest approaches to managing conflict I’ve read. It wasn’t about blame; it was about pausing and choosing empathy over ego.
Chapter 7, Nurturing a Resilient Mindset for Long-Term Relationship Success, is one of the book’s most empowering and quietly motivating chapters. It shifts the focus from fixing anxiety in the moment to building lasting emotional strength that can weather the ups and downs of love. The author emphasizes that resilience in relationships isn’t about being unaffected by conflict—it’s about bouncing back with understanding, empathy, and commitment. What resonated with me most was the idea that resilience is something you build, not something you’re born with. Techniques like setting shared goals, reflecting on past victories as a couple, and practicing emotional regulation in stressful times are all presented as realistic, do-able practices.
I’d absolutely recommend this book to anyone who’s ever felt emotionally hijacked by their own thoughts in a relationship. Whether you’re newly dating or in a long-term partnership, this book has value. It’s especially helpful for folks navigating anxious attachment, or for partners who want to better understand each other’s triggers and emotional patterns. It’s the kind of book you dog-ear, return to, and maybe even read out loud together on a quiet Sunday night.
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A Little History And Girl Power
The Four follows a group of teenage girls with unique talents in New Orleans who learn to rely on one another for friendship and acceptance while facing a dark fairy. What was the inspiration for the setup of your story?
The book came about in an unusual way. I wrote an adult commercial fiction book & was in the midst of querying. One evening I received an email from an agent I had been corresponding with and I excitedly opened the email to find a plethora of praise surrounded by a “but at 137K words I will have to pass but will be cheering you from the sidelines.” So, I was disappointed since I had put a lot of hope into this agent. I decided it might just be that I had never written a novel before & it didn’t matter what I wrote. So, I sat down and wrote a query letter for a YA novel, since most of the agents I had queried were interested in YA, for a book that didn’t exist. The next morning, I received a request for the first 25 pages, and The Four was born.
What were some themes that were important for you to explore in this book?
Once I began in earnest, it was very important that I convey acceptance. I had four very different girls who were alone with their secret, and I loved the idea of showing the awkwardness of beginning a new school, the challenge of high school, and being different but throughout all of that finding your squad. The very important relationship of a girl’s first real friendships.
Each of the girls in this story has different powers. In fantasy novels, it’s easy to get carried away with the magical powers characters have. How did you balance the use of supernatural powers?
I wanted the story to be grounded. There are so many books where the powers and supernatural become the focal point of the story. I wanted the friendships to be the center and I really wanted New Orleans to be almost a character in itself. I also tried to toss in a little history and girl power along the way. An example of that would be Joyce, a young survivor of the Titanic, who is the spokesperson for the hundreds of souls buried in her crypt.
Will this novel be the start of a series, or are you working on a different story?
The original book The Circlet is in edit, and I have begun a new project that blends Gaiman, Baum & The Legend of King Arthur in the environs of Savannah. With that said, when you purchase a copy of The Four from me there is a bookmark & sticker hidden inside the pages. The card asks the reader to tell me who of The Four they most related to. It’s been really lovely. I received one response who told me she was allergic to everything, but since it didn’t bother Mallory, my hemoglobin-intolerant vampire, it wouldn’t bother her anymore either. Along with lovely messages, I have been getting requests for sophomore year. I was told recently that I need the write the girls through college. So, the little unlikely book might have started something I never intended. I think the girls of The Four would like that.
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As they journey through freshman year of high school they face the trials and tribulations which come with discovering and embracing their differences. Together they will battle the dark fairy world to save a friend in the magical city of New Orleans. Along the way, they encounter a collection of creatures, both magical and mortal, under the rising full moon.
The Four is a tale of friendship, acceptance, and self-discovery, infused with the whimsy of Tim Burton and the magic found only in New Orleans. This is a story of finding the courage to be yourself and embrace your unique talents, no matter how different or unusual they may seem.
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