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Girl Game: Balls Out is a blend of memoir, psychology, and empowerment, and is a call for women to reclaim their power, stop people-pleasing, and rise unapologetically into their full selves. Why was this an important book for you to write?
In love, I was always had an anxious attachment style, and I genuinely felt like something was medically wrong with me. My insecurities always got the best of me, and I grew up without any confidence or self-esteem. Rejection was my middle name. I was unlucky in love. I had to get to the bottom of this, so I spent 5 years intensively studying attachment theory and childhood emotional neglect, and boy, did my findings revolutionize my life as I know it. That research and my own confidence transformation were the catalyst and backbone of this work.
In Chapter Six, “The Fight of Your Life,” you write about internal battles. How do you personally recognize when you’re in one?
By how I am feeling. All internal states are attached to a feeling, and all feelings are trying to tell us something vital about ourselves.
What do you hope women take away from your message when they’re standing at their own
breaking point?
That they heal “balls out” style. Many people sit in a therapist’s office for years and take medication for decades hoping to numb the pain, but they never really heal HEAD ON. I encourage radical healing through awareness and consciousness, and that requires a full-blown, balls-out exploration of the shadow, or what I call an emotional exorcism, in this book.
You mix faith, psychology, and empowerment in a unique way. How do those three forces coexist in your own healing process?
I am a spiritual person. I do blend faith, spirituality, psychology, and empowerment because of my background in all 3. I refuse to take pills. I don’t go to therapy (but I am a huge fan of it) – I champion healing by facing problems head-on and feeling them fully until healed.
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With over 100 years of research behind it in human psychology, emotion, healing, attachment and relationships, self-worth and identity, this book provides profound insights concerning the realities that shape our existence when we struggle with low self-esteem. Since our subconscious accepts all suggestions as facts, we are met with demons we didn’t create who plague us as mirrors impacting our closest relationships while making rejection become the norm. This happens because of generational trauma passed down from ancestors and the general negativity felt and experienced in the external world. By embracing self-worth from within, the book emphasizes the transformative power it holds in reshaping personal connections and attracting genuine affection. The text prompts introspection on questions of rejection, societal constraints, and the impact of insecurity on personal growth and fulfillment. Encouraging a shift from seeking external validation to embracing inner worth, GIRL GAME: BALLS OUT advocates for empowerment and taking control of one’s narrative. By fostering self-belief and authenticity, individuals can transcend self-doubt, radiate confidence, and magnetize positive interactions.
You can either overcome or come undone… the POWER is yours.
Are you hiding behind that pretty face…
GIRL GAME: BALLS OUT
Dr. Alexandra Elinsky’s Girl Game: Balls Out is a raw, fearless, and deeply personal exploration of female empowerment and emotional rebirth. The book blends psychology, self-help, and memoir in a way that feels like both a sermon and a conversation with a brutally honest friend. It unpacks the weight of female conditioning, our people-pleasing habits, the shame of self-doubt, the quiet suffering of women who forget their own power. Through stories, coaching insights, and bold declarations, Elinsky challenges readers to stop hiding, to grow metaphorical “balls,” and to live with unapologetic confidence. Her central message is clear: healing and ascension start when we stop shrinking.
The writing felt personal and passionate. Elinsky doesn’t just give advice; she hands you her own pain and shows what she built from it. Her words about emotional neglect, self-abandonment, and the ways women are conditioned to serve everyone but themselves resonated with me. She writes like she’s fighting for you. The mix of faith, psychology, and blunt empowerment talk was strange for me at first, but it works.
At times, her confidence borders on defiance, and that can be polarizing. There’s an energy behind every page, sometimes chaotic, sometimes tender, that makes it impossible to stay passive while reading. I liked that it wasn’t polished in a corporate, self-help way. It’s messy and real, like healing usually is. You can feel the heart behind every sentence.
I personally liked Chapter Six, The Fight of Your Life, because it feels like the emotional center of Balls Out. It’s fierce, heartfelt, and painfully honest. In it, Dr. Elinsky dives deep into the internal battles women face, the war between self-worth and self-doubt, between the desire to please others and the need to finally please ourselves. She writes about pain like it’s a sparring partner, not an enemy, showing how struggle shapes strength. I could feel her voice pushing me to stand taller, to stop backing down from my own potential. The tone is part battle cry, part therapy session, reminding readers that the hardest fights are usually the ones happening inside us.
I walked away feeling both humbled and fired up. Girl Game: Balls Out isn’t for readers looking for a quiet, clinical take on empowerment. It’s for women who’ve been through the wringer, who are tired of pretending, and who want someone to shake them awake. It’s a guide, a confession, and a pep talk all rolled into one.
Pages: 335 | ASIN: B0FNLZFD7D
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