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Why I Must Go offers parents a gentle way to talk about a family member’s military service and the reasons behind their time spent away from home. When did you realize there was a need for a book like this for young children?
My husband deployed twice in two years when my children were very young. My daughter started asking why her daddy had to leave for work when other daddies came home. I didn’t have a good enough answer that explained the magnitude of service and courage of military members. There was one defining moment on the day my husband deployed for the second time. We were at a friend’s house, and their dad got home from work. The kids all started yelling Daddy! and running to meet him at the door. My eldest got caught up in the moment and joined in, only for her face to fall when she realized her daddy wasn’t going to be home for a long time. I saw that there was a need for a way to explain to children that loved ones leave for the military because of love for them. They love their kids and family so much, they deploy to protect them.
How do you ensure the tone stays comforting without minimizing the reality of separation?
The reality of separation is very much present in the book, but I tried to pair different examples of the separation with reasons behind it. I focused on the freedoms and the safety that the children can enjoy because of the service of members in the military.
The story emphasizes routines and small moments of joy. Why was that important to include?
Life doesn’t and shouldn’t stop when family members deploy. It is so easy to fall into the trap of “Wait until Daddy gets home.” I wanted to show that fun and exciting things can still happen even though their loved ones may not be there to experience it with them.
What is one thing you hope families take away from Why I Must Go?
I want families, and especially children, to be proud of their loved ones for their service. To see the positive in their absence.
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Being separated from a loved one for a long period of time is especially hard. But why is it that loved ones who serve in the military have to leave for so long? Why is it they have to miss important life events?
Why I Must Go explains to children that their loved ones leave because they love them very much, and that they serve their country to protect and ensure their freedom. It is hard, but they are not forgotten.
This book helps children understand that they are a service member’s motivation and encouragement for what they do.
Book pictures and storyline are applicable to all services and inclusive of all ranks.
Why I Must Go
Why I Must Go, by Jennifer Nielsen Thill, is a gentle, reassuring children’s book about one of the hardest experiences a young child can face: a family member leaving for military service. Told in rhyme, the story centers on the bond between parent and child. It explains the reason for that separation with warmth, clarity, and a tone young readers can understand.
One of the book’s greatest strengths is its use of rhyme to communicate a complicated emotional reality. The writing shows how children and families keep moving through daily life, finding joy in small moments and comfort in familiar routines. At the same time, it quietly underscores that these ordinary freedoms are safeguarded by the sacrifices of those in service. That balance gives the story unusual weight. The rhythmic language softens the subject without diminishing it, making the message feel steady and comforting rather than overwhelming.
The parent’s voice is especially effective throughout. Again and again, the narrative returns to love, devotion, and purpose. That choice shapes the emotional core of the book. Instead of allowing the sadness of separation to dominate, the story frames the parent’s absence through pride, protection, and deep care for the child. The result is tender and affirming.
Ilma Salman’s illustrations also play an essential role in the book’s emotional impact. Soft, expressive, and inviting, they work hand in hand with the text to create a sense of comfort. The artwork is simple in style, yet emotionally rich. Younger children can easily connect with the images and gain a small, approachable understanding of what this kind of work may look like for their family. The visuals also emphasize the everyday moments of childhood, reinforcing the idea that a child remains loved, supported, and cared for even when a parent is away.
Why I Must Go is a thoughtful and supportive book that will be especially meaningful for children in military or service families. It is well-suited to younger readers who respond to emotional storytelling and gentle reassurance. For families searching for a calm, positive way to talk about separation, this book is likely to feel both helpful and deeply comforting.
Pages: 34 | ASIN : B0CNN15ZLB
