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Queen Code is part-memoir, part-mindset guide that uses powerful archetypes and lived experience to help women stop playing the victim, rewrite inherited stories, and rule their own lives with clarity, courage, and self-trust. Why was this an important book for you to write?
I wrote Queen Code: The Book to help readers recognize the stories that are already playing out in their lives, often without them realizing it. The archetypes make those patterns relatable. When you can see the role you’re stepping into, you can also see that the story isn’t fixed. Your perspective can change, your response can change, and the outcome can change, too.
That’s where personal policies become essential. They give you something steady to come back to when emotions run high or old patterns try to take over. Through Queen Code: The Book and my signature Queen Code Mastery™ program, I offer people a way to move from reacting to leading themselves, with clarity, self-trust, and intention. When you understand the story you’re in and have personal policies to guide you, you stop feeling at the mercy of circumstances and start choosing how you show up. That’s where real change begins.
The idea of “personal policies” stood out to me. How did that framework emerge for you, and how has it changed the way you handle conflict or drama in your own life?
The idea of “personal policies” was born from a conversation about business policies. Companies, stores, and banks have standard policies that their customers and/or employees adhere to, so why shouldn’t people also have policies to guide them? From there, my signature Queen Code Mastery™ program was created along with the Queen Code Oracle Card Deck, and of course, this book.
What I realized while creating Queen Code Mastery™ and writing Queen Code: The Book is that I’ve been using personal policies my entire life to navigate challenges and avoid unnecessary drama — not always perfectly, but consistently enough for them to evolve into what they are today.
The archetypes feel playful but also true. Did any of them surprise you or evolve as you were writing the book?
There was a bit of both. In some cases, the story led to the archetype, and in others, the archetype fit the story I was telling. The stories came from my own lived experience and from what I’ve observed in the lives of people around me. As I was writing, a few of the archetypes surprised me and took shape in ways I didn’t expect. They’re playful, yes, but they’re also honest. They reflect how we actually move through life, stepping into different parts of ourselves depending on the season we’re in.
If a reader could embody just one of your principles for the next year, which would you hope it is?
If a reader embodied The Sovereign for the next year, they would be choosing self-leadership and personal responsibility — the starting point and the foundation everything else is built on. Leading yourself first is both a radical choice and freeing. When you stop getting pulled into drama and live by your personal policies, everything shifts. Self-leadership isn’t about perfection, but it requires honesty and consistency. When you stop abandoning yourself in the little things, clarity starts to show up. Relationships improve, decisions come easier, and life feels more peaceful.
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Queen Code: The Book
Queen Code: The Book is part memoir, part mindset guide, all wrapped up in this playful idea of a “Queendom” where you are the ruler of your own life. Author Laura Muirhead uses archetypes like the Sovereign, Warrior Queen, Phoenix, Oracle, Rebel Queen, and more to talk about personal responsibility, boundaries, resilience, intuition, money, and legacy. She keeps coming back to her framework of “question, investigate, heal, and grow” and invites you to create your own “personal policies” so you stop living in old family stories and start leading yourself with clarity and self-trust.
I felt oddly seen by the whole “personal policies instead of boundaries” thing. It sounds simple, yet it really resonated with me. The way she talks about drama, victimhood, fear, and that “spin the bottle of blame” had me nodding and wincing at the same time. Her story about fear twisting a basic business transaction into a full-on betrayal saga really stuck with me, because I have absolutely watched people do that. The chapters on sisu, rising like the Phoenix, and the “fractured fairytale” of her childhood all hit a mix of tender and tough that I liked. I could feel her anger and grief under the surface, and that made the whole Queen Code idea feel like it was earned, not just a cute brand.
The language around vibration, manifesting, and co-creation was totally my jam. I loved how she wove those ideas into real-life moments like the horse stable, the house fire, the two homes, all those tiny choices that became big turning points. Those stories felt grounded and magical at the same time, very “as above, so below” in everyday clothes. When the book leaned into the capital letter concepts and repeated phrases like “Queen Code Mastery,” it felt like she was anchoring a whole universe of meaning. The archetype names genuinely delighted me. They felt playful and potent, like being handed permission slips for different parts of myself instead of just labels. And the short chapters, the relaxed voice, and her raw honesty about messy family stuff made it all land in my heart. It felt like sitting at a cozy kitchen table with a wise friend who believes in energy, destiny, and your power to change your life.
I would recommend Queen Code to women who love personal growth books that feel like a mix of coaching and story time, especially if you enjoy archetypes, oracle decks, and a book that helps you understand that you are the Queen of your life. If you want gentle but firm reminders to stop playing the victim, set stronger boundaries, and trust your own inner compass, you will probably dog-ear a lot of pages. I walked away feeling a little braver about tightening my own “personal policies” and a bit more curious about where I can improve my life.
Pages: 115 | ASIN: B0G7X24WRZ
The Turning Point
A Funny Thing Happened on the Way to My Life is a memoir that moves through your childhood, teenage years, and early adulthood, sharing your reflections on resilience, gratitude, and the strange ways life can twist, betray, and yet still surprise with meaning. Why was this an important book for you to write?
For years, I knew I wanted to write a book, but I argued with myself over releasing parts of my story into the world. I also wasn’t sure if my experiences mattered to anyone else. Working with my publisher, Karen Weaver, was the turning point. Her encouragement gave me the courage to finally share A Funny Thing Happened on the Way to My Life with the world. It became important because I realized that sharing our stories creates connection, and my hope is that someone reading mine will feel less alone and more inspired to see their own journey in a new light.
How did you balance the need to be honest and authentic with the need to protect your privacy and that of others in your memoir?
That was something I considered carefully from the start. Being authentic didn’t mean I had to share every single detail, it meant sharing what was true in a way that served the story. I gave myself permission to set boundaries, to hold back pieces that were too raw or that belonged more to someone else than to me. That balance allowed me to be real while still protecting both my own heart and the privacy of others.
What was the most challenging part of writing your memoir and what was the most rewarding?
The hardest part was revisiting times in my life I hadn’t thought about in years and realizing how much they shaped me. I also hesitated at times, wondering how my stories would be received by people who know me, but may not know the whole story. The most rewarding part has been the freedom that came from finally putting those experiences on the page, and even more than that, hearing from readers who found comfort, laughter, or hope in my words … that has meant more to me than anything.
How has writing your memoir impacted or changed your life?
Writing my memoir gave me a kind of freedom I didn’t expect. For so long, I carried my story inside me, partly as a dream, partly as a weight. Finally putting it into the world allowed me to let go of the fear and step fully into sharing my voice. It has opened doors I never imagined: connecting with readers around the world, seeing my book up on a Times Square billboard, speaking on stages, and bringing it into my Queen Code work. But even more than that, it has changed the way I see myself. I no longer question whether my story matters, I know it does, and I know telling it can help others believe the same about their own.
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From uncovering hidden family truths and navigating the ups and downs of relationships, to surviving a house fire and winning the lottery, Laura’s story is an inspiring testament to the power of resilience. With candor and humor, she reflects on the lessons each experience brought her, and how they shaped the person she is today.
This memoir is more than a recounting of life’s surprises; it’s a reminder that, no matter what challenges we face, we can find strength, growth, and even laughter along the way.
A Funny Thing Happened on the Way to My Life
Laura Muirhead’s A Funny Thing Happened on the Way to My Life is a memoir that moves through childhood, teenage years, early adulthood, and the deep reckoning of midlife with both candor and heart. She tells her story through episodes that range from tender family memories to shocking discoveries about her own parentage. The book blends personal narrative with reflections on resilience, gratitude, and the strange ways life can twist, betray, and yet still surprise with meaning. At its core, it’s about finding strength in truth, even when that truth shatters the story you thought you knew.
What struck me most was the honesty in her voice. She recalls being a child lost in a swirl of divorce, stepparents, and hospital stays, and later a young woman stumbling through identity crises, bad relationships, and financial struggles. The writing feels raw and unfiltered, which made me lean in closer rather than back away. At times, I was frustrated on her behalf, especially in chapters where her stepmother’s cruelty and her mother’s betrayal came through in sharp detail. Other times I felt relief and warmth, like when she described the steadfast love of her grandmother, or the freedom of learning to fly on her own terms. Those shifts kept me hooked. I found myself thinking about my own life, my own plot twists, and how I’ve responded to them.
The heart of the book, for me, was her discovery in her forties that the man she grew up calling “Dad” was not her biological father. The way she described the unraveling of family secrets, the weight of betrayal, and the eventual path toward forgiveness carried a lot of emotional punch. I could feel the anger in her words, the ice cream in the freezer standing in for the weight of all those tangled emotions. And then later, the surprising peace she found in gratitude. I didn’t always agree with her conclusions, but I respected her process. There’s something very human in the way she stumbled, raged, reflected, and then tried again to make sense of it all. Her style of telling is simple but layered, moving between plainspoken anecdotes and larger reflections on truth and resilience. That mix made it feel both intimate and universal.
I felt that this book wasn’t just her story. It was also a nudge to the reader to look at their own. To consider where the cracks are, and whether those cracks let in anger or light. I’d recommend this book to people who enjoy memoirs that don’t sugarcoat the hard stuff, especially readers who are working through family secrets, identity shifts, or personal healing. It would also speak to those who just like a true story told straight, with grit, gratitude, and a good measure of heart.
Pages: 68 | ASIN : B0F3D9WNVT
