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Quiet Love (& Growing It) is a practical guide blending science and social wisdom to help individuals cultivate lasting, fulfilling relationships through patience, growth, and quiet effort. Why was this an important book for you to write?
Everywhere you look, you find unrealistic depictions of what love is. Some people don’t have any examples of what a real, lasting relationship looks like and only see effortless or “romanticized” versions in movies or social media. It’s rare to find people who speak the truth about real love, how to find it, and most importantly, how to keep it.
What surprised you most while researching the science of love, and how can this understanding change the way people approach their relationships?
That there are actually formulas that make us more likely to fall in love, though it is more open-ended than one might think. Also, how quickly our subconscious can make judgments about another person after looking at them. It’s less than one second, though not always accurate for the purposes of a successful long-term relationship.
What advice would you give to couples who feel that their relationship lacks excitement but is still grounded in love and stability?
It sounds unromantic, but I wouldn’t suggest focusing on excitement at all. Excitement comes from the unknown, so as you learn more about each other, the excitement naturally fades. This is perfectly normal and okay, but if you expect it to last forever, you will always be looking for the next relationship. If you focus on consistent everyday actions and a shared purpose, the rest will fall into place toward a lasting and truly fulfilling relationship.
Which myth do you think is most harmful to relationships, and what steps can individuals take to reframe their thinking about love?
The No-Day Rule speaks about this, but anything like the “three-day rule” where you wait three days before contacting someone again after a first date. There’s nothing that will tangle the lines of communication more than things like these. And there’s nothing more attractive than someone who isn’t afraid to show competent and respectful interest in you.
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Do you long for a relationship that isn’t built on excitement and grand gestures but on the quiet, everyday moments? One that isn’t shaken by every challenge but strengthens over time through steady, purposeful love?
In a world full of lust, distractions, and short-lived passions, Quiet Love is your key to a deeper, more fulfilling connection.
Inside this book, you’ll find:
❤️ The 14 principles of “quiet love” that help sustain a relationship at any stage
💡 Insights into handling change to ensure your love grows together rather than apart through life’s unpredictable challenges
🗝 The 4 key factors that keep your relationship thriving in the long run
🙏 Simple but powerful gestures that show love in the smallest, yet most meaningful ways
🌱 How to cultivate shared experiences that deepen your bond and create lasting attachment
And much, much more—backed by 100+ references to scientific journals, articles, and studies.
With Quiet Love, you’ll discover how to nurture a relationship that feels grounded, genuine, and meant to last. Whether you’re single or married, young or experienced, Quiet Love offers timeless wisdom to fortify the foundations of your love life.
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Quiet Love (& Growing It)
Quiet Love (& Growing It): 14 Rules to Find, Build, and Keep the Best Relationship of Your Life is an insightful and comprehensive guide to understanding, cultivating, and nurturing both your relationship with yourself and with your partner. Whether you’re single and seeking love, just starting a new relationship, or in a long-term commitment, this book offers practical tips on how to create happiness and satisfaction. Author Matthews Hess combines scientific insights with social dynamics, unraveling why we behave the way we do when in love and how we can harness these understandings to strengthen our relationships. He explores the idea of “quiet love,” a love that grows steadily, remains kind and supportive, and, though understated, is one of the most powerful forces in life.
Inspired by his own marriage to his wife Tessa, Hess presents 14 clear rules designed to foster a lasting relationship. What stands out in this book is its perfect blend of social cues, scientific explanations, and the debunking of popular love myths. Right from the start, Hess challenges the notion of “love at first sight” and instead emphasizes the importance of growing into love, a perspective that resonates deeply, especially for those familiar with the psychological intricacies of relationships.
One of the standout chapters delves into the chemistry of love, breaking down the neurological and hormonal processes that govern the three stages of love: lust, attraction, and attachment. Hess explains these complex biological mechanisms in a simple and approachable tone, making it clear that there’s much more happening in our minds and bodies during love than we often realize.
This isn’t just another book about gimmicks or seduction tactics to make someone fall in love with you. Instead, Hess focuses on the deeper aspects of love, how it evolves beyond initial lust and attraction, and how it can grow stronger despite the inevitable challenges. His honest and straightforward approach reveals that love is not just about fiery passion, it’s about the quiet and consistent effort that makes a relationship flourish over time.
Hess’s thoughtful and heartfelt guide is a must-read for anyone looking to strengthen their relationships, whether with a partner or with themselves. It’s a refreshing take on love that encourages growth, patience, and understanding.
Pages: 178 | ASIN: B0DFVTKGJC
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