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Under the Fig Tree shares your personal story of loss and helps others cope with and prevent suicide. Why was this an important book for you to write?
The book was important to write for several reasons. Firstly, the book was written to give Anna’s art a voice. Many people, who find sharing their feelings challenging, describe their inner self by mediums such as art, writing, music and other creative avenues.
Although Anna has shown fashion designs and illustrations via BBC world service and fashion houses, her graphite work, which speaks of her emotional turmoil, is yet to be exhibited – but can now be seen in this book as an introduction into the complexities of her troubled inner world.
What is one piece of advice that has helped you the most after losing your daughter?
One piece of advice that helped me was to find an outlet for my grief was by speaking with others who had lost a child to suicide. Being alone with your grief is dangerous. You must interact with others and realise you are now part of a bigger picture.
What is a common misconception you feel people have about suicide?
A common misconception – three words – blame shame and Stigma (BSS).
These perilous internal messages that are prevalent in suicide.
You are not to blame. There is nothing shameful about your loved one taking their life.
The Stigma needs to be erased globally.
What do you hope is one thing readers take away from your book?
I hope the reader will take away the above and find meaningful ways of coping via communication whether they are suicidal thoughts or post suicide survival.
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Under the Fig Tree
Under the Fig Tree is an emotionally-resonant story about suicide. Written by Rita Wright, she details how Anna M. Wright, her daughter, committed suicide after her struggle with depression, anxiety, and a panic disorder. The goal in telling Anna’s story is to aid others in dealing with mental health issues or suicidal thoughts, and to verbalize and express those thoughts so the person suffering does not fall victim to the tragedy of suicide. She emphasizes the importance of not suffering in silence, believing that talking can stop a person from reaching their breaking point.
The author’s writing is gripping, authentic, and covers a relevant topic in today’s society, especially when so many people who have never had any issue with their mental health are suddenly dealing with depression and anxiety due to the COVID-19 pandemic.
The author does an excellent job of telling the story of her daughter in a thoughtful and compelling way without being triggering to readers. She describes her daughter as being born with a naked nerve, meaning she is a person who sees peace in death and shows an ambivalence towards life. She also describes her daughter’s career and success as a fashion designer, painting her as more than a number. Framing her as a real person who has been lost, not just a suicide statistic. She does this by crediting Anna as a writer for the book despite her passing; which was emotionally impactful for me after I realized it.
There is a foundation started in Anna’s name. The foundation focuses on people affected by suicide and those struggling with it themselves. Because Anna was an artist, art and other creative outlets are some of the ways the foundation helps support people. By allowing them to express those thoughts and feelings that Anna didn’t express.
Under the Fig Tree is a vital book for anyone that is struggling with suicide and anyone who has a loved one that is struggling with it. Potent and emotional, this is a thought-provoking book that I’m glad to have read.
Pages: 172 | ASIN: B09R4112MW
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