Shedding Light on the Darkness
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Finding Happiness In The Dark explains how the search for happiness is flawed and how happiness is unique to everyone and is ever-changing. Why was this an important book for you to write?
In the past I really struggled with depression, hindsight gave me the opportunity to realise how subtle thoughts and feelings can easily develop into a totally debilitating critical thoughts, unpleasant feelings, emotions and unhelpful behaviours. As a result, what I was actually resisting and fighting against were my own feelings, I ended up being depressed because I was depressed. As I eventually learned, the feelings themselves aren’t actually the problem, they are simply trying to guide and protect me to help me survive. We will always experience all types of feelings both pleasant and unpleasant, without them we simply wouldn’t survive.
As a society we have developed a need to be happy and focus on positives, to the point that all unpleasant feelings are rejected and avoided. The fact is, if we feel bad then we feel bad and pretending we don’t isn’t going to resolve anything. Unpleasant unresolved feelings aren’t going anywhere, instead they become an underlying filter to how we perceive our thoughts, feelings, emotions, behaviours, our environment and others. As a result, we keep our minds occupied and distracted as we strive towards goals, activities and products that bring us moments of joy. These moments don’t last long though, and the unpleasant feelings come to the surface again and again. Because of this, “I will be happy if …” becomes a common phrase and belief, the work is not to search for the happiness, instead to allow ourselves to get comfortable exploring the darkness so that happiness reveals itself naturally.
What is a common misconception you feel people have about happiness?
Unless it is a significant moment of being submerged in pure joy then it doesn’t really count.
I am happy about thousands of things right now, I’m happy I’m sitting on a comfortable chair instead of a cactus, I’m happy I’ve got the opportunity to discuss my book with you instead of giving up after a case of writers block, and the list goes on.
When we disregard all of the little moments of happiness, at what stage do we draw the line and say “OK, I’m happy now!”
What is one piece of advice that you would give to someone who says they are ‘searching for happiness’?
Stop searching! When you accept all feelings, happiness will appear naturally.
What do you hope is one thing readers take away from your book?
The darkness is not that dark when it’s accepted. When you allow yourself to accept all feelings you will see that happiness is all around us.
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