Bully Friends educates readers on bully friendships and the dangers those relationships create. Why was this an important book for you to write?
I had several bully friendships in grade school and I knew how painful that was for me. I wanted to prevent another person from experiencing the heartache that I had experienced.
I also felt that the media talked about bullying and abuse in romantic relationships and families but rarely talked about abuse and bullying in platonic friendships. I wanted to start that conversation.
What do you feel is a common misconception people have about bullying?
People do not realize how damaging bullying really is. I developed PTSD from my bullying experiences. PTSD was very challenging to deal with. It has literally taken me years to get over the trauma that bullying caused me.
What is one thing you hope readers take away from your book?
I hope that readers understand the seriousness of bullying and refuse to tolerate it under any circumstances. I also hope that students will reach out to someone that will take their bullying situation seriously.
If you could go back and give yourself one piece of advice what would it be?
I absolutely love this question! I would, first of all, give myself a big hug, and then I would tell myself that this situation is not permanent. The bullying will stop and you will go on to do big things in this world and be an inspiration to many. The bullying which was used to harm you and literally end your life will be used by God to save many lives.
I would also tell myself to report the bullying to a trusted school official and/or my parents because nobody should tolerate being bullied. Back then I just kept my head down and excelled in school and I didn’t even realize how dangerous doing that really was because I felt super depressed and isolated.
Bully Friends by Kelechi Uchendu is an uplifting and inspiring book about how to deal with bully friends, and how to cope with the way they’ve treated you. The book also tells you how to stop yourself from becoming a bully friend. The book explains how having good friends can change your life in a positive way. Kelechi Uchendu provides examples of bully friends, coupled with real-life experiences to let the reader know that they aren’t alone. At the end of every chapter is a page for you to write down your own experiences and ways you think you can improve your friendships.
Providing real-life experiences is great for young readers as they can relate to them. It helps the reader to not feel alone or like the author doesn’t truly understand what they’re going through. The pages to write on at the end of each chapter is great for the reader to identify the similarities between their situation and Kelechi’s so they can stop it. Overall, Bully Friends is a good book for young-adults to read so they know how to avoid bad friendships. Reading a book like this is good for kids to notice the toxic friendships they may have, so they can find better, nicer, and supportive friends.
Bully Friends is one of the most useful books that I’ve read this year as it gave me tools that I can actually use. Kelechi Uchendu covers almost every way a bully friend can abuse you mentally so her readers can avoid those situations. The relatable experiences and helpful advice can help to change anyone’s life for the better.
Pages: 34 | ASIN: B08D3YH1B9
Written by a woman who dealt with bullying and bully friendships during grade school, Bully Friends teaches everyone (even the bully!) about how dangerous bully friendships really are. This book covers everything from defining what a bully friend is to how to heal from a bully friend relationship. Along the way, Kay Kay shares personal stories of her heartbreaking experiences with bully friends and how she went on to find herself and form healthy relationships now and in the future.