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Losing Mom
Losing Mom, by Peggy Ottman, is a memoir about a daughter walking with her mother through the last stretch of her life. The story moves through medical crises, small moments of grace, old family rhythms, and the shifting power dynamic between parent and child. It opens with years of near misses, each one convincing Ottman that maybe her mother would never actually die, and then follows the final days with an honesty that feels both intimate and strangely universal. At its heart, it is about love, caretaking, and the long letting go that comes when a parent fades.
The writing is simple, direct, sometimes almost breathless in the way it tumbles forward. That works for this kind of memoir. The scenes of crisis feel sharp because they are told the way we remember trauma, in fragments and quick flashes. I appreciated how she didn’t try to polish herself into some perfect caretaker. She shows the guilt, the second-guessing, the resentment, the deep tenderness. Her relationship with her sisters adds texture, too. They each carry different responsibilities, and you can feel the family history in every conversation.
What struck me most was the author’s honesty about fear. The fear of losing her mom, yes, but also the fear of doing the wrong thing, of missing a sign, of not being strong enough. Those moments felt very emotional. Some scenes hit hard, like when she speaks nonsense during what might be a stroke. Other moments are quiet, almost gentle, like the nurse patiently washing her mother’s hair. The memoir doesn’t try to turn grief into something tidy. It lets it stay messy and human, which makes it more powerful.
By the end, Losing Mom feels like a long exhale. It doesn’t offer big lessons. Instead, it gives you the feeling of having walked alongside someone through something real. I’d recommend Peggy Ottman‘s story to anyone who gravitates toward memoirs that deal with caregiving, aging parents, and the complicated love that sits underneath family stories. Readers who value emotional honesty over dramatic storytelling will appreciate it most. This is a memoir that keeps you thinking, especially if you’ve ever watched someone you love slowly slip away.
Pages: 300
Protecting Mama: Surviving the Legal Guardianship Swamp
Protecting Mama is an intense, deeply personal, and often shocking memoir that dives into the murky, bureaucratic, and, at times, sinister world of legal guardianship in the United States. Author Léonie Rosenstiel shares the painful saga of her mother’s entanglement in a guardianship system that seems more interested in control and profit than care or dignity. Backed by over 40,000 pages of legal documentation and her own relentless determination, Rosenstiel walks us through years of institutional deception, family secrets, courtroom manipulation, and the emotional toll of fighting a system that feels rigged from the start.
What really gripped me was the raw, unfiltered way Rosenstiel lays out her story. This isn’t some detached legal analysis. It’s deeply human, almost unbearably so at times. The moment she describes how her mother’s guardian removed her beloved Egyptian bark paintings replacing them with photos of her abusers, that broke me. It wasn’t just a decorating choice; it was a cruel erasure of identity and comfort. Rosenstiel doesn’t just tell us what happened, she makes us feel the outrage, the helplessness, the absurdity of a system that hands so much unchecked power to total strangers. Her writing isn’t flashy or polished to a high literary shine. It’s straightforward, emotional, and piercingly honest. I wouldn’t want it any other way.
Rosenstiel also has a sharp, sarcastic edge that I really appreciated. When she fact-checks a New Mexico bureaucrat who claimed almost no one complains about the guardianship system, Rosenstiel does a quick Google search and finds millions of hits for “guardianship abuse.” That’s the kind of mic-drop moment that makes this book more than a personal story; it becomes a wake-up call. She’s done her homework, and she’s not afraid to take aim at judges, attorneys, and “professional guardians” who profit off of the vulnerable. I admired her restraint, too she never veers into conspiracy theory territory. She sticks to what she can prove, and she can prove a lot.
At the same time, this book isn’t just about a broken system, it’s about a family and all the messy, unresolved history that comes with it. I was struck by the honesty with which Rosenstiel reflects on her mother’s past and her own role in trying to untangle decades of secrecy and trauma. You can feel how desperate she was to find any way to help. That level of emotional vulnerability, combined with the bureaucratic horror show she was navigating, made this a uniquely powerful read.
Protecting Mama is a gut punch of a book. It’s not light reading, but it’s important. If you have aging parents, or if you work in law, healthcare, or elder care, this book should be required. It’s a warning, a protest, and a love letter all rolled into one. Rosenstiel pulls back the curtain on a system that thrives in secrecy and shows us why silence is not an option. For those willing to face the uncomfortable truth, Protecting Mama delivers it with fierce honesty and heartbreaking clarity.
Pages: 481 | ASIN : B09MV3XMMB
We Will All Be Caregivers
A Caregiver’s Love Story and Reference Guide is your memoir about not only caring for your dying husband but the life you had together. Why was this an important book for you to write?
I thought it was important to tell the reader what life as a caregiver was like. At some point in our lives, we will all be caregivers of some sort. My story is not unlike others, but I write things down so I can get it out of my head, and that way I can slow down and still be a loving wife instead of fussing about what I had to do to keep things running smoothly for Bill’s care. My writing, I hope will help others get through the experience of caring for someone and also losing them in the end.
I appreciated the candid nature with which you told your story. What was the hardest thing for you to write about?
A lot of it was very sad to write, but not hard. and the final diagnosis and time frame given by the doctor for Bill’s life was breathtaking to say the least. We always knew that I would outlive him, but when the medical team tells you your loved has only a given amount of time to live, it takes on new meaning. Bill was given 2 to 4 years to live and passed away after 3 years.
I didn’t shed a tear while writing this book, but if I try and read a chapter out loud, I just can’t do it without sobbing. Bill passed away a month ago and now the reality of his illness and dying have come home. The busyness of caring for him made the days go by so fast that time just slipped away.
Grief is supposed to be the purest form of love. It hurts! Your heart hurts so bad you wonder how it continues to beat. One must learn to live with it and continue their life as well. It is part of growing older and I wanted people to know all we went through to keep Bill alive for as long as possible, so they know if they are going through the same thing that the feelings they are experiencing are normal. It was the most loving thing I could do for Bill.
What were some ideas that were important for you to share in this book?
Caring for yourself as well as your loved one is essential in surviving the daily work of living life to the fullest while caring for someone. The day-to-day work of cooking, cleaning, shopping and being a caregiver can take over your very existence. You are in charge of your life as well as your loved one and both of you need equal care and love.
What do you hope is one thing readers take away from your story?
Caregiving will be the hardest job you will ever have. Everything you need to know is in your heart. You just need to look there for the answers. Loving and caring for someone go hand in hand. Keeping the scrapbook of your lives together in your heart will sustain you through the very difficult end to your loved one’s life.
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A Caregiver’s Love Story and Reference Guide is a book of stories about several medical diagnoses, hospitalizations and coping with a loved one’s terminal illness, not only for the patient but the caregiver. You’ll find chapters on having oxygen in the home, obtaining Power of Attorney, anticipatory grief, hiring and firing help, when to call an ambulance and avoiding caregiver burnout, along with stories of life as a caregiver.
Each chapter has a lesson – a reward, or something to think about as you read through the stories. Handled with humor and sensitivity, caring for a loved one can become less of a burden. Not only will it be the hardest job you have ever had, it will also be the most fulfilling.
CARE GIVING GIFT OF UNCONDITIONAL LOVE
Author David Soh Poh Huat teaches us that caregiving is a gracious gift. It is notable, a calling, and a gift that is sometimes overlooked. In his book Caregiving Gift of Unconditional Love, David Soh Poh Huat extensively writes about caregiving. However, he primarily focuses on the qualities of a good caregiver and the impact caregivers have on families and the larger community.
Readers will learn through this book why it is important to spread love and positive energy to those who offer caregiving services and the elders and sick in need of caregiving. This book discusses the different angles of caregiving on an intimate level. Gently, the author invites the reader into his world, a world that will make the reader appreciate caregivers more.
David Soh Poh Huat warmly talks about his family, especially his father, Thomas, and sister, Susan. In his book, readers learn about having a close-knit family. Through the author’s story, the reader is shown the raw and explicit facts about caregiving. The author explains that sometimes it can be overwhelming, but it is a fulfilling experience. This well-thought-out book is a guidebook on how to take care of loved ones.
The book takes one on a rollercoaster of emotions. Readers can resonate with what he discusses and even bond with him through his text. For example, when talking about his sister, one can feel his words’ love, tenderness, and empathy. I enjoyed reading about David and his relationship with his sister, as one gets to learn that sibling love conquers everything.
Reading about Thomas was amazing too. Through David and his father, readers get enlightened about the essence of having a patriarch and the rewards of being part of a loving family. The primary lesson in this book is to be kind and accommodating to all. If you can offer caregiving services, do so without expecting anything. There is something beautiful about giving back to others through caregiving.
The cordial language applied by the author, his truthfulness, and how to open David Soh Poh Huat when showing his vulnerable side is appealing. I love how short the chapters are and how easy it is to complete the book in one sitting. Every page has some wisdom to appreciate.
Caregiving Gift of Unconditional Love is an educational book about caregiving, and what makes this book a great read is the author’s display of compassion. David is genuine with his readers and writes his reality. His story is uplifting, and his writing style reassuring.
Pages: 62 | ASIN : B09CTQYWKS
No Regrets: Hope for Your Caregiving Season
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Caregiving is a selfless act that not many understand. In her book No Regrets: Hope for Your Caregiving Season author Rayna Neises writes about caregiving and taking care of parents in old age. Aging and growing old are inevitable and children often find themselves as the primary caregivers to their parents when they age. Rayna Neises addresses all children that are taking care of their parents, giving practical tips on how to be a great caregiver and how to handle different situations while caregiving.
No Regrets: Hope for Your Caregiving Season has two main parts, one focusing on caring for others and the other focusing on caring for yourself. One of the main lessons I got from reading both parts is that for you to take proper care of others, you have to be well yourself. Take care of your physical health, take care of your mental health, and protect the energies you love and move away from negative energies.
As you read this enlightening book you realize that caregiving requires both emotional intelligence and compassion. The book teaches that as a caregiver, you should put the other person first and get to understand where they come from. The information and advice delivered among the heartfelt stories will help readers learn to be compassionate and be more appreciative.
One thing that kept me going as I read is how personal the author made the stories feel. Rayna Neises shows a personal side that readers immediately fall in love with when reading her book. The author does not hide her intimate moments nor is she shy to share how she feels about caregiving and what her experience has been. Readers will connect with and appreciate Rayna Neises for sharing deep moments of her life. All of this serves to connect the reader with the author so that the pragmatic advice she shares feels workable.
The thought-provoking stories that are shared throughout the book made the reading experience enjoyable as a mini-memoir. This book is much more engaging than a regular ‘how-to’ book on caregiving. If you are new to caregiving, then this book is for you. The topics that are covered in the book will be very helpful to readers that are not well versed with the subject of caregiving. There is a wealth of knowledge shared in the book, including keeping the family intact, navigating balance, working as a team, dealing with obstacles and how to overcome barriers, when to ask for help and understanding everyone’s needs. This is a fantastic resources for caregivers and will surely improve the lives of many.
Pages: 205 | ASIN: B08TQL81HW
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