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Heal From My Life’s Baggage

Annette Densham Author Interview

How To Eat A Shit Sandwich: and Keep Smiling tells readers your story about dealing with the bad things that happen and how you managed to get through them and get on with your life. Why was this an important book for you to write?

I have been a writer since I could hold a pen. I have always been intrigued and fascinated by people’s stories; especially the stories of people the world considers ‘ordinary’. I find these are the most compelling stories – the ones where true grit and determination are displayed; not to get attention, but from necessity and survival. I want those who have lived extraordinary lives quietly and humbly to know that their stories matter, and no matter what has happened to them, there is an opportunity to help others heal.  Writing my book was a cathartic experience – I shed a lifetime of pain by letting it pour from my head to the screen/paper. I wanted to finally heal from my life’s baggage.  I also wanted to share that our stories do not define us. Yes, they shape up but you can have a life that has been so hard, but still dig deep to heal and go on to bigger and better things.

I appreciated the candid nature with which you told your story. What was the hardest thing for you to write about?

Writing about my childhood was hard; realising how many times I have been abandoned and abused by people who were meant to love and protect me. It was also hard to write about the sexual abuse I experienced. There was one chapter that just flowed out of me…I had forgotten it happened until I put my fingers to the keyboard. I was only 13 when it happened and it changed how I looked at my body and my sexuality … and I think it left me vulnerable to future abuse.  I got to the end of that chapter and sobbed. How can people be so cruel and horrible to each other?

What is one piece of advice someone gave you that changed your life?

Whether people love me or hate me, it has nothing to do with me.  It took me a while to get this because my whole life I have worked hard to get people to like me. I’ve yearned for approval from all and sundry. Yet, it didn’t make my life any better. When I realised how people see me, whether they like me or not, is not something I can control, because people make judgements about others based on THEIR life experiences. Our beliefs, life experiences and inner thoughts shape how we look at the world… and it is not always based on reality. So if someone doesn’t like me, it could be because I remind them of someone who was horrible to them – how do you control that? You can’t. So I stopped bothering. I just be the best I can, and as long as I show up without the intention to hurt others, those who want to be in my space will and those who don’t won’t.

What do you hope is one thing readers take away from your story?

 I want people to see that everyday ordinary people can make an impact on the world. There is nothing special about me beyond I survived my childhood. I found a way to dig deep and heal through my pain. It is possible. Bad things happen to good people, and while we cannot control how those bad people impact our lives, we can control how we deal with it. I chose to live my life, despite the terrible things that have happened to me, with joy, expectancy and determination. You can eat a shit sandwich, you can eat a buffet of them, but you control how you let that impact you. I want readers to see that there is a silver lining, that good can come from bad, and that there is always a way forward to a happier life. It starts with what goes on between your ears. You control your thoughts, feelings, and how you show up in the world. Take control. Don’t let those who hurt you win, but being a victim.

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How do you make a shit sandwich palatable? You may think it’s impossible but if you surround it with light, love and laughter, you can get it down. It is the only way to eat one. There is no escaping one of life’s truisms – shit happens. Doesn’t matter who you are, where you are from, we’ve all had to deal with our share of shit.

The only difference between you and Annette Densham, is she decided to share her shit in a memoir. Is she famous? Ah ah! Is she an intellectual giant? She is smart but nothing extraordinary. Is she popular? Only in her own lunch time. But she does have a lot to say. You dear reader, get to follow the bouncing ball of her life as she shares the gut wrenching lows and moments of hilarity.

How To Eat A Shit Sandwich & Keep Smiling may sound messy and yucky, and in some parts it is. Annette takes a trip down memory lane – exploring key events in her childhood and adolescence. Written in the voice of the age she was at the time, some parts will make you cringe and blood boil as she shares stories of abandonment, bullying, sexual abuse, and domestic violence, will others will remind you life is what we make of it. You can eat a shit sandwich and still find joy and happiness. Some people call it resilience and grit, Annette calls it getting on with life.

Countless Strange and Humorous Situations

Hank Mancini
Hank Mancini Author Interview

Memoir of a Nerd shares your personal stories growing up in the ’50s and the hilarious situations you got into. Why was this an important book for you to write?

My children and friends are used to me telling stories about the countless strange and humorous situations I found myself in, and they encouraged me to “write them down.” I feel fortunate to have had a very full and satisfying life and felt compelled to share my story with others.

There were a lot of humorous situations in the book. What is a moment in the book that makes you laugh every time you think about it?

My favorite story is the chapter titled “A McDonald’s Bag of Cash.” I cashed a check for over $18,000, and the only thing the teller had to put it in was a used McDonald’s bag. My second favorite is the chapter “Déjà vu,” about a prank we played on a fellow missionary.

What were some ideas that were important for you to share in this book?

Life is better when you enjoy what you are doing. Looking back on my life, I realize that my enjoyment was more of a state of mind than the circumstances or situation.

What do you hope is one thing readers take away from your book?

I hope that readers will enjoy reading about my escapades enough to brighten their day.

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This book will make you laugh!

In these tense times of uncertainty and division, this remarkable book is just what the doctor ordered! The book is filled with hilarious and humorously told stories.

A self-described nerd, the author recounts his experiences growing up in the ’50s and the endless predicaments he has found himself in throughout his life. From spending formative years as a missionary in Japan to learning life lessons in Las Vegas, Mancini’s antics seem never-ending. His days looking for love, as he says in all the wrong places, are very funny.

You will surely laugh at the hilarious and often absurd events in this very personal memoir! The author writes with wit, optimism, and humor. This book is a rare gift of humor that will give anyone a good laugh. Recommended to anyone who needs a break from these crazy times.

Read Memoir of a Nerd and find out why the author admits that if there were an award for “Worst Chapter Title,” the last chapter of his book would likely win it!

The knowledge of the willing

Ramzi Najjar
Ramzi Najjar Author Interview

The YOU beyond you shares your experiences to help readers reach their true potential. You stated in our previous interview that people need to stay motivated to survive. How do you stay motivated?

Well motivation alone is not sufficient. One can be motivated all the time but reach no place. You can compare motivation to a muscles car, if you have a bad driver behind the wheel the experience would generate a lot of chaos. Before being motivated, one should filter all negativity acquired from the outside, by avoiding putting himself in unpleasant scenarios or situations and reasoning his actions and reactions, thus implementing a system where he uses his consciousness in everything he does. We need to be proactive in acquiring knowledge and not let data in, in a passive manner. I personally have removed TV, news, unhealthy social interactions, and all sorts of data that can get to my mind in an unconscious way by totally avoiding being exposed to them.

Once this is in place, you can put a clear vision for your life and the lack of demotivators can leave space to motivation which can be directed towards productive goals. Remove all negative data intake from what surrounds you and your mind and thoughts will be automatically shift towards productivity.

You stated that the majority of what we know is only partial. What advice would you give to someone who is struggling to come to terms with that?

Yes, I believe all what we know and all what we could ever know no matter how ample it is, would remain partial in nature and this is due to the fact that we as humans are just a small fragment of the reality we live in, and our brains can only read a limited spectrum of it. The way to deal with that is to always take this as a constant and never have rigid beliefs in life which always lead to aggressiveness and mind-blocks.

Knowing that our knowledge is partial in any subject should always lead to more lenient social interactions.

Moreover, one should work on segregating these partial realities inside of him and encompass his logic as to what to keep and what to let go, on daily basis. This is a strength and not a weakness, as if our knowledge was rigid and complete, our humanity would be stagnant with little room of development.

Do you plan to write more books on this same subject?

Yes, this was the tip of the iceberg. I am intending to write a second book explaining more in depth the dynamics I communicated to readers in The YOU beyond you – The knowledge of the willing.

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The YOU beyond you — A book that will change your perception of life

We always experience life through our subjective perceptions, built-up beliefs, and what we have been taught or told by others and seldomly stop to meditate on the reality which surrounds us.

Most of our beliefs and perceptions today are nothing but a collection of misleading ideas due to the many blockages in our lives, that hinder to a great extent our understanding of our own reality.

This enlightened guide offers the reader a method to dissolve all that is acquired as bad habits, beliefs, and energies, which have been gathered through experiences and passive knowledge and unlocks a new dimension of reality based on its true mechanics and mode of action and based on concepts, principles, and givens never heard of before.

“The YOU beyond you” contains the real secrets of life and how they operate within us and within our environment. A process that occurs right before our eyes yet mostly goes unseen due to the many obstructions in our lives.

A must-read of at least once in a lifetime, for everyone who is willing to experience the real dimension of existence and go beyond the limited norms. The book contains the tip of the iceberg of life’s nature, on which one can use as a platform to unveil his full knowledge and his true potentials.

No matter who we are or what our life goal is, our bad habits and unhealthy beliefs are the only reasons that trouble us in becoming the best versions of ourselves.

In this book, you will embark on thorough research on how these bad habits and chaotic knowledge which are gathered through our lives get embedded in our life system and create a negative framework for our lives. You will also be set on an attitude that lets you consciously and unconsciously break free from these limitations and experience the true path where everything prospers.

A guide for readers of all ages, helping them to rise to the level of their life goals. Written with the sole purpose of assisting the reader to understand how mind, body, and soul work within our environment and how these age-old beliefs and perceptions which we accumulated can be turned around, dissolved, or turned into a directed drive to flourish.

Inspired by biological and psychological theories, ideas, and true-life experiences, this comprehensive guide provides you with an extraordinary life approach to reach new heights. The book will truly transform your life.

I’m a Romance Scam IT Detective: Psychological games * Real IT Analysis * Legal matters * Gender Studies

Selina Co Author Interview

Selina Co Author Interview

You share your own experiences in this book, and they help clarify how someone can be scammed. What were some things you learned personally compared to what you learned through research?

I have learnt that scamming the scammer is as easy as being scammed.

I have also learnt that many people do not fall for love, but for GREED or for KINDNESS.

And you will be surprised that most educated people got romance scammed in my book – engineer, politician, IT consultant, professor, top business person … all got scammed!

In my book, I have explained a lot of psychology in this game. Well, it is pretty long. Read my book to learn more.

I enjoyed how you presented the information in an easy to understand manner. What do you hope readers take away from your book?

Most of the media has over-simplify the game. The current “signs” and “Red flag” method has a high degree of guess – it does not work for humans. Humans make judgements based on rational data and human relationships.

The revolutionary IT-evidence based method will bring the crime to an end.
In my book, I have illustrated how legal hackers trace the source in a cybercrime. This has been a black box for the general public. I hope the general public can now have a high-level idea on cybercrime forensics.

What is the next book that you are working on and when will it be available?

I’m currently full time working as a cybercrime detective. There is NO next book planned.

Author Links: GoodReads | Twitter | Facebook | Website | Romance Scam Detective Company

I'm a Romance Scam IT Detective: Psychological Games * Real IT Analysis * Legal Matters * Gender Studies by [Co, Selina]

This true story explains cybercrime investigation, hackers, romance scams, scamming a scammer and money recovery.

When financial IT consultant Selina finds herself victimized in an Internet romance scam, losing 70% of her life savings, she scams the scammer and uses new IT tools to trace the criminals …

But … why did this computer engineer fall victim in the first place, when she was not even in love with the fraudster? Will Selina be able to save the love of her life, Jason, who is believed to be in another romance scam?

This crime involves 7 countries (Australia, the United States, Singapore, Ghana, Nigeria, China, New Zealand) in 4 continents.

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